It is absurd to disrespect someone that has not earned such treatment. Similarly, it is just as absurd to respect someone who has not earned that, either. -- Handle strangers with a polite neutrality until their actions and words earn them either grace or disgrace.
hmm.. what if they know this theory and are also neutral?
ReplyDeleteDisagree. I generally handle strangers with warmth and friendliness - it's never steered me wrong yet. :)
ReplyDeleteDisagree. I generally handle strangers with warmth and friendliness - it's never steered me wrong yet. :)
ReplyDeleteSorry, dude. I posted twice, first from the wrong account. :P
ReplyDeletePolite Neutrality is friendliness... it is not however respect and trust.
ReplyDeletethose are the things we must earn.
Nikki, I imagine two polite, neutral people would become pleasant acquaintances until life experience and situations proved the value, or lack thereof, to one another.
ReplyDeleteWhat are your thoughts?
I sort of agree, except if both people are waiting for the others actions to decide... kind of like dating, and you know how I feel about that. When you date you are typically neutral and polite because you want to make a good impression. I think Genie from aladdin said it best "Just beeeee yourself" But seriously, less neutrality and more genuine-ness. Being neutral sounds like you are unsure of yourself and who you want to be.
ReplyDeletePerhaps I should rethink the use of the word neutral, and replace it with something else. I'm basically just saying that we shouldn't invest trust and respect into people who haven't earned those qualities. It's possible to not respect someone without disrespecting them... but I'm not sure of what word to use to express that, which doesn't have other implication about ones feigned social mask
ReplyDeleteHow come I don't get a notice when you respond on here? I demand it! :)
ReplyDeleteI get what your saying, you don't have to rethink your wordage. I just sort of agree with Alisha in most circumstances where you should treat someone how you expect to be treated. "Judge not lest ye be judged".. If you expect someone to treat you well you treat them well, if you expect them to like you, then you start out liking them. But if you don't expect someone to like you, because obviously they don't already like you, then you act neutral. Is this nonsense?
How bout this: “The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like” Applying the Law of Attraction principal to the phrase "I need more money" is presumed to allow the subject to continue to "need more money". If the subject wanted to change what they were allowing it is presumed that they would change their want and not having thoughts of already having.
So if you do this the way you are saying (which is completely fine), and considering the other person does the same, I presume it will likely end in a long trusting relationship. Because both people were willing to get to know each other first instead of liking each other right away before ever really knowing the other. This is how I prefer things. But in my experience this is not how most people operate these days.
Well stated. I think you've jumped the gap left by my poor communication and arrived at the concept I was originally trying to convey.
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